Here is a quick self-assessment from the book:
- Do you speak to your husband in a condescending, “put down” manner? (“What’s the matter with you?”, “can’t you do anything right?”, “I should have known better than to depend on you.”, “Can’t you ever do anything right?”)
- Do you treat your husband in private as respectfully as you do your pastor, neighbor or your friends in public?
- Does your countenance show your disrespect by angry looks, looks of disgust, crossed arms, etc?
- Do you talk for your husband or interrupt him?
- Do you try to intimidate or bully your husband by making threats, verbally attacking him, crying, or in some other way manipulating him to have your way?
- Do you bring up his shortcomings to others?
- Do you inappropriately contradict him in front of others?
- Do you compare him unfavorably with other men?
- Do you listen carefully to your husband’s opinion, trying to understand him?
- Do you respect his position in the home so much that he can depend on you to do as he asks even when he is not home?
- Do you respect his requests by trying to do as he asks, even if it doesn’t seem important to you?
- Would your husband say that you have a meek and quiet spirit? If you do, it will be apparent in how you treat him.
- Are you obeying God by being respectful to your husband?
Let the wife see to it that she respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33